Philosophy

Midlife is such a rich time in life, full of stories, experiences, and hard-won wisdom, but it’s also a period when things can shift unexpectedly. Perhaps your children are leaving home, your career role is changing, or you’re simply bored with the day-to-day. You might have faced a significant life change like divorce, menopause, or loss; perhaps a long-held dream feels unfulfilled, or your dream life isn’t as fulfilling as you’d hoped. 

Beyond these shifts, there’s often a nagging feeling that you’ve given so much to others that you’ve lost track of what you really want or who you truly are. What once felt right, no longer does, and the roles you’ve played might not fit. This can leave you with that quiet question: Is this all there is?  

Taking the next step can feel incredibly hard because you might not know what you want or even where to look for it. Many of us are afraid of stepping outside our comfort zone and risking what we already have. We’ve spent years focused on responsibilities and doing the right thing, often stopping ourselves from asking: What do I actually enjoy? or What kind of life do I want next?.

This can leave you feeling stuck. Not because you’re broken, but because you’re trying to move forward without a clear sense of direction that really fits who you’ve become now. It’s like using an old map for a new landscape. 

Plus, on a deeper level, there’s a stronger overarching reason: fear.

This fear isn’t always obvious; it can be fear of the unknown, failure, judgment, or fear of losing what we have built so far. This pervasive fear creates inertia, keeping us tied to our current reality, even when we yearn for more. 

I really believe that midlife isn’t a crisis. It’s actually an incredible opportunity and a threshold to new possibilities. It’s a natural pause; a moment to reflect on where you’ve been and to begin imagining what could be possible. It’s an invitation to reorient yourself and ask yourself, what do I really want next? Having spent your earlier years working out who you are, now is the time to think about what you want from this next, rich chapter. 

Designing your new ordinary

At the heart of my coaching is a simple philosophy: fulfilment isn’t found in chasing glossy goals. It’s about deciding how you truly want your everyday life to look and feel, and then creating a lifestyle that supports that ideal. 

A holistic perspective 

This is not about living up to someone else’s idea of success, or even the dreams of your younger self. It’s about who you are now. My approach is holistic, focusing on how you want to live, how you want to feel, and what matters most to you today. Together, we design your new ordinary: a life you don’t need to escape from. 

The pillars of your new ordinary:

Happiness in the everyday. Well-being doesn’t only come from big milestones. It grows in the small, ordinary moments we savour. A good cup of coffee, a walk along the beach, a laugh with a friend: these simple joys create the foundation of a contented life. 

Purpose without pressure. Purpose doesn’t have to be grand or world-changing. Often, it’s as meaningful as making life brighter for the people around you, or finding satisfaction in what you do each day. 

A life that feels right for you. When you live in alignment with your values, embrace small joys, and connect with a purpose that feels right, happiness comes naturally. It stops being something to chase and instead becomes the by-product of a life well lived. 

How to begin designing a life that fits who you are now? I believe it starts with: 

• Looking inward. This involves exploring your own motivations, asking: What do I want my everyday to be? How do I truly want to live? This clear vision of your ideal day-to-day life becomes the foundation for everything else. 

• Knowing your starting point. It’s helpful to take a snapshot of where you are now. This helps you see the contrast between your current reality and where you want to be, and it also encourages gratitude for the things that are working. 

• Clarifying your values. I find that understanding what we really care about is crucial. When your actions are in tune with your values, decision-making becomes clearer, more natural, and feels right. If you’re going against your grain, I believe it will always feel wrong. 

• Leveraging your personal toolkit. You already have incredible passions, strengths, and gifts inside you. I see this personal toolkit as holding everything you need to start shaping your desired lifestyle and making it a reality. 

• Embracing discomfort. I’ve observed that any meaningful change involves temporary discomfort. Instead of running from it, I encourage you to get comfortable with discomfort, framing it as data – a signal that you’re stretching beyond old limits. Each stretch, I believe, builds confidence and curiosity, expanding what you believe is possible for you. 

• Making it real. This is where all the threads and insights come together. You can dream and plan all you like, but I believe change only happens when you take action. This way you can enjoy turning your vision into reality step-by-step, starting to live the life you’ve imagined. 

I want to offer a gentle invitation to begin now. I don’t think we need to wait for a big ‘aha!’ moment, and the truth is, no one is coming to rescue us. If we want things to be different, we’ve got to take that first step ourselves.

I see this not as a race, but as a lifelong journey, like a dance to be enjoyed. My advice is to begin now, but go gently. I encourage us to see this as a chance to explore and experiment at our own pace, much like trying on clothes for size. We can also consider which small step, a little out of our comfort zone, would be a push but not overwhelming. 

I truly believe midlife is a beautiful opportunity to reset. It’s about taking small, intentional steps in a direction that feels right for us now, listening to that quiet call within.  Each one of us is a work in progress, and life keeps evolving, just like we do. It’s not about having it all worked out, but about learning and growing along the way. 

I feel we owe it to ourselves to explore this incredible potential. Don’t wait for the perfect moment; I’ve found it rarely arrives.

Let’s start our adventure today.